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You love your boyfriend or girlfriend, but you argue sometimes. Disagreements are normal, but how can you tell when your relationship is problematic? It’s not always easy.

You should know that it can take time for intimate partner violence to become part of a relationship. As a result, the victim may not always be aware of it.

Do you have doubts? Take the test: Is my relationship healthy?


Differentiating between anger, aggression and violence


feeling angry is a normal and healthy reaction. It helps you to set boundaries and pinpoint what you won’t accept. However, you must express anger appropriately rather than letting it spill over and affect others.


this is a form of energy and an instinctual and natural impulse in response to an intense emotion.

We feel aggression when we become angry, when we’re competitive, and when we’re in danger. However, we must pay attention to how we utilize our aggression. If we unintentionally direct it towards others, there’s a potential for violence.


this is the intentional use of inappropriate techniques in order to get your way. It is a means of controlling others through intimidating and manipulative behaviour.

When anger and aggression
are directed towards a partner and used to control, intimidate or silence them, that is violence.

Are you having difficulty differentiating between them? Call us at 819-326-1321.

Is jealousy in a relationship normal?

Jealousy in a relationship: NO

Jealousy: YES

What’s the difference? Jealousy is one of many emotions and feeling jealous at certain points in your life is normal. However, it should be temporary and you should be able to control it and not allow it to affect you or your relationships.

Jealousy is an emotion that can be problematic in a relationship if it becomes excessive and repeated or constant. The way that we manage this emotion can also become problematic.

When a person is jealous, they tend to want to monitor and control their partner’s thoughts and actions This is not a healthy reaction. Controlling behaviour in a relationship often leads to a dynamic of violence. Jealousy can lead to obsession and a desire to control the other person. This is not proof of love. It’s violence.

  • Talk about it.
  • Work on your self-confidence.
  • Find reassurance in solutions.
  • Seek professional help.

How can L’Ombre-Elle help me?

If you’re an adolescent (all gender expressions and identities) and believe that you’re a victim of intimate partner violence or know a victim, we are available 24/7 to answer any questions you might have. 

819 326-1321